Married to a Big Family ?

Many people believe that getting married into a big family automatically brings happiness, care, and mental support. In reality, the size of a family doesn’t always decide the strength of the support system. What truly matters is the quality of the relationships, not the number of people in them.

A big family can be a blessing when love, respect, and understanding flow among its members. There are always people to talk to, to share responsibilities with, and to stand beside you during difficult times. Celebrations feel lively, and there’s a comforting sense of belonging. For some, being surrounded by many relatives provides emotional security and the feeling that they are never truly alone.

However, being part of a large family also has its challenges. Too many opinions, comparisons, and expectations can become emotionally draining. Privacy often gets lost, and decisionse especially for newly married couples can become complicated because everyone wants to have a say. When communication and empathy are missing, a big family can even become a source of stress instead of comfort.

True mental support doesn’t come from the size of the family, but from the sincerity of its members. Even a small family or just one person who listens, understands, and stands by you with love can give more peace of mind than a crowd of people who only care in words.

In conclusion, marriage into a big family can bring mental support only if the people are emotionally mature, kind, and understanding. Otherwise, a small circle of genuine hearts can give far greater comfort than a large group without true connection. After all, it’s not about how many people you have around you, but about who truly stands with you when you need them the most.

Why no Acceptance

In today’s world, one of the most common issues we see is that parents find it very hard to accept their child’s mistakes or problems, especially when someone else another parent, teacher, or neighbor points it out. Instead of listening calmly, many parents become defensive or angry. This behavior has many reasons behind it, most of which come from love, pride, and fear.

Firstly, parents naturally love their children deeply. Because of this love, they often see their child as perfect or innocent. When another person talks about their child’s problem  like being rude, lazy, or behaving badly  parents feel hurt or insulted. They take it personally, as if someone is attacking their parenting skills. This emotional reaction stops them from seeing the truth calmly.

Secondly, some parents fear judgment from society. They don’t want others to think that their child is not well-behaved or disciplined. Accepting a child’s fault in front of others feels like losing respect or status. So, instead of accepting, they deny or defend their child’s actions.

Another important reason is ego. Many parents believe they know their child better than anyone else, which is partly true. But sometimes this ego blinds them from seeing things that others notice. They think, “My child can never do that,” even when the problem is real. This denial only makes the issue grow bigger with time.

Also, today’s fast-paced life gives little time for reflection. Parents are stressed with work, family, and social pressure. When someone talks about their child’s behavior, they immediately react instead of understanding that such feedback could actually help their child improve.

In reality, accepting a child’s problem is not a sign of weakness  it’s a sign of maturity and courage. Parents who listen with an open heart can help their children grow better. No child is perfect, and that is completely fine. Every mistake is an opportunity to learn, if only parents can accept it calmly.

In conclusion, parents must remember that accepting the truth about their child does not reduce love  it strengthens it. When parents become open-minded and understanding, they build a stronger bond with their children and help them become better human beings. Acceptance is not about blame; it’s about growth, empathy, and real parenting.

 

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This is a very sensitive topic.My daughter has a fried who is a christian boy from the age of 6.They both are 8 now.

He is a very good child.Very shy and quite.He doesnt speak much in the class but studies really well.My daughter is his only friend.He makes her cards during festivals.School ends by 3 pm and from 4 till 7 he goes for tution everyday and perfect in studies.He doesnt have any friends or does he not like to go out of house to play or make friends.

I spoke to his mother recently and she said they are a christian family and that is why he is like that.She also told me that your daughter has been the longest friend so far.Many at times i asked her why dont you take him to a park or somewhere else and try making friends.She said she herself doesnt like to take him.She is saying he tells all the kids of his age doesnt have maturity and likes to speak to people above 40 age.At some point i understood that there is something different.

She said even at school teachers are telling about him and his younger brother about the same pattern hence she is going to chanhe school as teachers dont understand her children.She tells mark is important and my son gets that then why to worry about behaviour.I think thats wrong because a teacher has rights to come up with whats happening in class and its upto the parent to take it or not.

One day she called me and said he sees a lot of recorded games at home and doesnt like to speak to girls.Thats the exact time.my daughter said he doesnt speak to me these days.I told that also to her and she said he doeant have any yopic to speak to a girl.If its boys he speaks about games cars etc.But,my question here is you say that you dont take pictures,not in social media,wont watch television wont play with the same age kids etc.Her statements are always contradictory.One day she sent me a picture of a neatly arranged table and few messages saying see how organised he is.I think she was trying to justify that they are right.But i still think there is something wrong.Either as a parent we have to accept the flaws and look to improvise or not put the blame on the complete surrounding.According to her the rest of the world is mad.

How do you see this.I think this is not my cup of tea.Have you seen such families or friends.I understand that each child is different and i myself have had different type of people come and go in life but have never met this category.

Kindly comment your thoughts on how ypu would deal with such parent personalities and child.

Advantages of Not using phone for long time.

Hello Everyone!

These days I am very happy without using phone.I see a lot of changes in my life.

I shall explain in a way I know.I am not there in facebook for past 4 to 5 years.I was there in instagram as i had a travel page.I post thrice a year and i dont follow anyone hence i dont have any updates from others.

This year when I went to India I dint even use instagram for 2 months.That made a great difference.I slowly stopped using instagram.

Then comes contacts in my phone.I deleted all the contacts who dont reach me and have a minimal number of people in phone who are in touch.They might call once in a month.

So no instagram,facebook and unwanted apps or calls.

I have reduced my phone hours to 1-2 hours per day.

Advantages of this change.

1.No unwanted phone calls.

2.Not knowing whats happening in others life.

3.Wishes from people who really care.

4.Started to paint a lot.

5.Walking 2 hours everyday.

6.Learning classical dance and oil painting offline.

7.Studying Japanese for JLPT.

8.Reading a lot of books.

9.Spending time well with family.

I think i would never go back to the phone again.

Has anyone done this.How do you feel about it.What changes happened in your life.