Phone Call

Hi Everybody.Navarathri Season is on...

Alright I am back from India vacation.

A topic that I had been thinking for a long time.Do you all call your friends or family weekly once?Why i am asking this? Because nobody does that to me.This is a topic that I had been thinking nearly for the past two years.

I have tried my best to keep up many friendships and relationships with friends cousins etc but somewhere it's disconnected.When I went to india I even asked them directly.They asked me in your free time what do you do? I said I will message or call people in india to talk.They said we would look into our family and that's the difference.This really hunted me.I don't know how come everyone whom I interacted gave the same answer.I even told them phone is the only medium to speak to all of you and I don't think they understood my feelings.For the past one year I have stopped making outgoing calls to india.I thought atleast they would call but to my surprise I get a call monthly once they too when they are free or with a reason.I am so very disappointed with this behaviour.They say they are busy.Even if they give a valid reason I can understand.Wont a human have 2 minutes to ask a how are you ?But they all have time to be online in Instagram and what not.Any how that's all not my business now.

With lots of hardships and tears I have come out of that faced.I started to focus more on me.Let me be honest it was very difficult to stop that making a call to india feeling.Now I just don't care.If anyone calls me I speak or else no.

So if there is or was anyone like me share your experience here.

Be kind with your comments please.

I am happy to have to all here to share what we think with each other.

Silence taught me a lot.A lot.

Are we Numb?

The world around us seems to have changed dramatically. Where emotions once flowed freely, now there's a palpable sense of detachment. People go about their daily lives with a stoic facade, rarely revealing their true feelings.It's as if the world has become a stage, and everyone's playing a role. We're all just going through the motions, without any real emotional investment. The smiles are forced, the laughter is fake, and the tears are held back.I remember a time when people would come together, united by a shared experience or emotion. But now, it seems like everyone's an island, disconnected from the world around them.Is this the new normal? Have we become so numb that we no longer feel the need to express ourselves authentically? Or is it just a reflection of the times we're living in?As I navigate this world, I'm left wondering: what's the cost of this emotional numbness? Are we losing ourselves in the process of protecting ourselves from the world?"

Are you also going through the same as me.What are your thoughts about this?

Unforgettable Words for him

Hi ! Happy new year to all of you . Been a long time . There had been many experiences in life to be noted but this one has to be written here hence writing . 

Today I went to a play area with my daughter where I usually go . People there know me well . Last week when I went there was a man in the billing area and he told me there is an offer where you recharge for 200 you will get 35 extra and use the card for a year . I said no thank you , spent sometime there and came back . He mentioned I gave you an offer if you don’t want then ok leave it . At that point itself I dint like the way he spoke to me but I just left it . 

Again the next week I went to the same place . Today the offer was recharge for 300 and get 70 extra with one year validity . I said not needed for now anyhow I would be coming here to get groceries with my husband as it’s a Saturday so when I come I shall get this offer if needed thank you . 

He immediately said …ok ! So your husband will pay . 

I really got upset with that statement but still went away because I know that I am very bad with my temper and don’t want to make a mess. As the new year has just started . 

I waited until he left the place and went there and asked for his name to make a complaint . Immediately the girls who work there caught my hand and said what he said is wrong we apologize . We know you are a cool person , we have seen you play with your daughter and don’t get angry . By that time he finished his prayers and came . 

He came to me and said sister sorry . I think your mood is not good . 

I made him sit down in his chair caught his hand a said . 

It’s not about who is paying or who is earning in the house or whose card I am using . I can get the offer even now but whatever may be I will have a word with my husband and then get this offer . This is regardless whether I have a salary , earn more than him, less than him whatever . 

I hope you have a sister , mother or girls at your home and never tell like this to any woman even at your home . You never know the situation of a woman . There are woman who work harder than you out there . It wouldn’t take a minute for me to make a mess here and call your supervisor or create a scene but I am educated , I know how it is to be an employee and I know the value of money so take this as a new year advice and be careful . Not all woman would make you sit and talk like this . Happy new year and thank you . He absolutely felt bad for what he said and since he apologized I dint make a mess . 

I hope he understands what I said and never repeats again . 

No Equality .

 Hi ! 

Today my daughter came and said they took a group photo in school and all the girls knelt down in one line and boys stood in the back . I felt this very bad . Why can’t boys kneel down and girls stand in the back . 

I think this has to be changed .Have you also heard something like this or what do you think about what I am saying ? 

I am yet to receive the photograph . But I think this has to changed . They should atleast make everyone sit in a chair and take a picture or find some other equal option . Equality is not there in this world . Very bad . 

Post in your thoughts or similar experiences you have faced in this universe . 

Fooooood !

 Hello ! Been a long time since I posted here . Hope you are well . 

I love cooking and everything about food . I make vegetarian recipes and I am clueless on non veg and baking recipes . 

Looking into the universal health and situations around how healthy are you eating ? Looking into YouTube videos is also scary for me . I am bit confused on what’s happening with food around 

But let me also tell some things that I follow before I ask you all something . 

1.I don’t eat any chat items outside such as bhel puri, pani poori samosa etc items 

2.Strict NO to noodles , pasta , macroni or any sauces related to it 

3. NO to any packed Chips , Cakes , Buns , Creamy Buns etc 

4. Have stopped white sugar and instead using brown sugar one spoon a day for coffee . Only 1 coffee per day 

5. Maximum Trying to buy farm Milk instead of cans . 

Basically we eat a lot of vegetables , lot of fruits and 1 cup of coffee / Any type of tea ( Ginger , Sukku, etc types ) 

6. We go to hotels only for birthdays . Which means 3 times in a year . If we go for any vacations it depends but not everything and every time in the hotel type people . 

7. We cook twice a day . 

8. Lemon water , cinnamon water or star anise water in mornings ( empty stomach) is always our favourite to do .

Now please let me know what you all do so that I can change and learn or might get ideas for a better health from you all 

How do you start your day regarding food or how do you look on the below things ? 

Do you eat home made food ? 

Is there any particular ingredients or food that you avoid ? 

How often do you eat out ? 

What oil do you use for cooking ? 

House cleaning day

 Hello Everybody  !

This is my first post of 2021 . Hope all are doing well so far . 

So few days back I had to call someone from an X company for house cleaning as it was very dusty and we had just arrived home . I paid 1500 for cleaning one room in advance itself as that’s how they work and the work was not done properly . Though I told him that I am not satisfied I also posted a review on their page stating the man was in a hurry to complete the work and would not be getting their service again . 

After 3 days this man can to my home and asked what have you commented ? Because of you I lost my job for 3 days and I couldn’t buy anything for my kids . I honestly felt very bad and said I just posted a one liner comment because I dint like your service . As he said he couldn’t buy anything for his kids I gave him 200 rupees and said whatever u want for your child please buy . He got it and went . Once he got the money he said they suspended for 3 days and from tomorrow I will join back to work.He told me to delete the comment which I dint .  

My thoughts on this incident . 

1 . He should have not come home asking for the review .If the service is not good obviously I would post a comment because I am the customer .  

2 . The company shouldn’t send the employee to ask about situations like this . 

3 . This is absolutely wrong which I know and I would not call them again . 

Why I gave him money ? 

On humanity basis I felt very bad when a man told that he couldn’t buy anything for his child . I told him you are talking about not having a job for 3 days and we have been jobless for months . He never bothered it . 

Anyhow I found better people and would call them next time. 

Though I know somewhere something is wrong I am happy that I helped a man who is in a bad condition than me . That’s all . Whether he was telling a lie or was honest I have done my part . 

Dec 9 ♡

Today is our 8th Wedding Anniversary.  Though we know each other for 10 years formally its 8 ;)

So on this day I thought of writing what I feel on this journey. 

They normally say so and so years of togethersness but I would say its 8 years of fighting and winning each and every piece of moment in life .Than being together most of the time we have been in different places .We have even stayed in Mansions in seperate rooms even after our wedding . We go out on weekends and meet in the staircase with a chai for chit chat and go back to our rooms .We have been colleagues in 2 companies . The club sandwich and tea breaks were the chit chat time .But let me tell you that was the most beautiful time of life . Less money more fun .So even in reality we have lived half of our life like hostel mates or friends or colleagues. This is one of the situation example . If I start writing then it goes on hence stopping here.

More than happiness we have seen a lot of problems get into our life all the time but we have stood for each other and got it right back on track . I am so very thankful to the universe for bringing Naveen into my life .The special quality I have seen in him is he supports my whole family at any cost and he has more patience than me. That understanding with patience is a rare thing . I always pray he stays happy ..

So this wedding day was a very simple one . He got me my favourite Plum cake .Naveen got a pair of dress for me and he got 5 pairs ;) Wait .. I am super happy that he really bought something for himself . I told him to buy more actually . He never buys anything for him .He always says you all be happy and I am happy .I made his favourite Aviyal for lunch box . That's how it went and tata bye bye to Office . 

Anyhow like you all I learnt my own lessons during this Covid times and the first thing I learnt is Naveen should be first always and from now on he will be ♡ 

Hoping for many more years of friendship and then the us .Above all I have always been proud and happy that we never faked a single moment in our life . Whatever maybe our journey is right there on the table like a candle .

Love ♡ Food ♡ Sleep ♡ Peace ♡ Patience ♡ 

With love ,

Your friend