Perseverance

I am Currently Studying for my JLPT Exams so today in my online Japanese class out of 31 students there is a Person named Ramesh.Not mentioning from where he is because that doesnt matter anyway.Normally in our Class the video is supposed to be on but only 10 of us will follow the rule rest of them doesnt.

I have seen Ramesh buying groceries from shop or riding a bike while on call.At that time i thought not bad he is still doing chores and on another side listening to class as well.

One day his video was off.Our teacher sarcastically said this guy doesnt switch on his video i dont understand why some people do like this.How much ever times i say nobody listens.

I think he was venting off his anger during the class plus he was irritaed might be due to age as well (75).Before the conversation ended this guy switched on his camera.

He was in an ICU wearing a green dress with headcap and doing something on a patient.He said i am on duty and i thought no one needs to see an ICU hence my video was off.I was shocked.I was like Imagine his  perseverance.

Our teacher asked him sorry.

I think we should not judge anyone or come to a conclusion without knowing both the sides.Age doesnt give you the rights.

Could have dealed this in a more polite way.

Married to a Big Family ?

Many people believe that getting married into a big family automatically brings happiness, care, and mental support. In reality, the size of a family doesn’t always decide the strength of the support system. What truly matters is the quality of the relationships, not the number of people in them.

A big family can be a blessing when love, respect, and understanding flow among its members. There are always people to talk to, to share responsibilities with, and to stand beside you during difficult times. Celebrations feel lively, and there’s a comforting sense of belonging. For some, being surrounded by many relatives provides emotional security and the feeling that they are never truly alone.

However, being part of a large family also has its challenges. Too many opinions, comparisons, and expectations can become emotionally draining. Privacy often gets lost, and decisionse especially for newly married couples can become complicated because everyone wants to have a say. When communication and empathy are missing, a big family can even become a source of stress instead of comfort.

True mental support doesn’t come from the size of the family, but from the sincerity of its members. Even a small family or just one person who listens, understands, and stands by you with love can give more peace of mind than a crowd of people who only care in words.

In conclusion, marriage into a big family can bring mental support only if the people are emotionally mature, kind, and understanding. Otherwise, a small circle of genuine hearts can give far greater comfort than a large group without true connection. After all, it’s not about how many people you have around you, but about who truly stands with you when you need them the most.

Why no Acceptance

In today’s world, one of the most common issues we see is that parents find it very hard to accept their child’s mistakes or problems, especially when someone else another parent, teacher, or neighbor points it out. Instead of listening calmly, many parents become defensive or angry. This behavior has many reasons behind it, most of which come from love, pride, and fear.

Firstly, parents naturally love their children deeply. Because of this love, they often see their child as perfect or innocent. When another person talks about their child’s problem  like being rude, lazy, or behaving badly  parents feel hurt or insulted. They take it personally, as if someone is attacking their parenting skills. This emotional reaction stops them from seeing the truth calmly.

Secondly, some parents fear judgment from society. They don’t want others to think that their child is not well-behaved or disciplined. Accepting a child’s fault in front of others feels like losing respect or status. So, instead of accepting, they deny or defend their child’s actions.

Another important reason is ego. Many parents believe they know their child better than anyone else, which is partly true. But sometimes this ego blinds them from seeing things that others notice. They think, “My child can never do that,” even when the problem is real. This denial only makes the issue grow bigger with time.

Also, today’s fast-paced life gives little time for reflection. Parents are stressed with work, family, and social pressure. When someone talks about their child’s behavior, they immediately react instead of understanding that such feedback could actually help their child improve.

In reality, accepting a child’s problem is not a sign of weakness  it’s a sign of maturity and courage. Parents who listen with an open heart can help their children grow better. No child is perfect, and that is completely fine. Every mistake is an opportunity to learn, if only parents can accept it calmly.

In conclusion, parents must remember that accepting the truth about their child does not reduce love  it strengthens it. When parents become open-minded and understanding, they build a stronger bond with their children and help them become better human beings. Acceptance is not about blame; it’s about growth, empathy, and real parenting.

 

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This is a very sensitive topic.My daughter has a fried who is a christian boy from the age of 6.They both are 8 now.

He is a very good child.Very shy and quite.He doesnt speak much in the class but studies really well.My daughter is his only friend.He makes her cards during festivals.School ends by 3 pm and from 4 till 7 he goes for tution everyday and perfect in studies.He doesnt have any friends or does he not like to go out of house to play or make friends.

I spoke to his mother recently and she said they are a christian family and that is why he is like that.She also told me that your daughter has been the longest friend so far.Many at times i asked her why dont you take him to a park or somewhere else and try making friends.She said she herself doesnt like to take him.She is saying he tells all the kids of his age doesnt have maturity and likes to speak to people above 40 age.At some point i understood that there is something different.

She said even at school teachers are telling about him and his younger brother about the same pattern hence she is going to chanhe school as teachers dont understand her children.She tells mark is important and my son gets that then why to worry about behaviour.I think thats wrong because a teacher has rights to come up with whats happening in class and its upto the parent to take it or not.

One day she called me and said he sees a lot of recorded games at home and doesnt like to speak to girls.Thats the exact time.my daughter said he doesnt speak to me these days.I told that also to her and she said he doeant have any yopic to speak to a girl.If its boys he speaks about games cars etc.But,my question here is you say that you dont take pictures,not in social media,wont watch television wont play with the same age kids etc.Her statements are always contradictory.One day she sent me a picture of a neatly arranged table and few messages saying see how organised he is.I think she was trying to justify that they are right.But i still think there is something wrong.Either as a parent we have to accept the flaws and look to improvise or not put the blame on the complete surrounding.According to her the rest of the world is mad.

How do you see this.I think this is not my cup of tea.Have you seen such families or friends.I understand that each child is different and i myself have had different type of people come and go in life but have never met this category.

Kindly comment your thoughts on how ypu would deal with such parent personalities and child.

Advantages of Not using phone for long time.

Hello Everyone!

These days I am very happy without using phone.I see a lot of changes in my life.

I shall explain in a way I know.I am not there in facebook for past 4 to 5 years.I was there in instagram as i had a travel page.I post thrice a year and i dont follow anyone hence i dont have any updates from others.

This year when I went to India I dint even use instagram for 2 months.That made a great difference.I slowly stopped using instagram.

Then comes contacts in my phone.I deleted all the contacts who dont reach me and have a minimal number of people in phone who are in touch.They might call once in a month.

So no instagram,facebook and unwanted apps or calls.

I have reduced my phone hours to 1-2 hours per day.

Advantages of this change.

1.No unwanted phone calls.

2.Not knowing whats happening in others life.

3.Wishes from people who really care.

4.Started to paint a lot.

5.Walking 2 hours everyday.

6.Learning classical dance and oil painting offline.

7.Studying Japanese for JLPT.

8.Reading a lot of books.

9.Spending time well with family.

I think i would never go back to the phone again.

Has anyone done this.How do you feel about it.What changes happened in your life.

Phone Call

Hi Everybody.Navarathri Season is on...

Alright I am back from India vacation.

A topic that I had been thinking for a long time.Do you all call your friends or family weekly once?Why i am asking this? Because nobody does that to me.This is a topic that I had been thinking nearly for the past two years.

I have tried my best to keep up many friendships and relationships with friends cousins etc but somewhere it's disconnected.When I went to india I even asked them directly.They asked me in your free time what do you do? I said I will message or call people in india to talk.They said we would look into our family and that's the difference.This really hunted me.I don't know how come everyone whom I interacted gave the same answer.I even told them phone is the only medium to speak to all of you and I don't think they understood my feelings.For the past one year I have stopped making outgoing calls to india.I thought atleast they would call but to my surprise I get a call monthly once they too when they are free or with a reason.I am so very disappointed with this behaviour.They say they are busy.Even if they give a valid reason I can understand.Wont a human have 2 minutes to ask a how are you ?But they all have time to be online in Instagram and what not.Any how that's all not my business now.

With lots of hardships and tears I have come out of that faced.I started to focus more on me.Let me be honest it was very difficult to stop that making a call to india feeling.Now I just don't care.If anyone calls me I speak or else no.

So if there is or was anyone like me share your experience here.

Be kind with your comments please.

I am happy to have to all here to share what we think with each other.

Silence taught me a lot.A lot.

Are we Numb?

The world around us seems to have changed dramatically. Where emotions once flowed freely, now there's a palpable sense of detachment. People go about their daily lives with a stoic facade, rarely revealing their true feelings.It's as if the world has become a stage, and everyone's playing a role. We're all just going through the motions, without any real emotional investment. The smiles are forced, the laughter is fake, and the tears are held back.I remember a time when people would come together, united by a shared experience or emotion. But now, it seems like everyone's an island, disconnected from the world around them.Is this the new normal? Have we become so numb that we no longer feel the need to express ourselves authentically? Or is it just a reflection of the times we're living in?As I navigate this world, I'm left wondering: what's the cost of this emotional numbness? Are we losing ourselves in the process of protecting ourselves from the world?"

Are you also going through the same as me.What are your thoughts about this?